For some, these thoughts define how we feel about ourselves. If the comparisons are consistently negative towards ourselves, painful roadblocks in life will be the result.
Often we compare ourselves to others through our assumptions. Do we really know all the factors in a person’s life with which we compare ourselves to? For example, even though one person may have the career you aspire to, there may be many areas in that person’s life you would not want.
The person who has the smooth silky skin that you so desperately envy may be clawing her way out of a deep depression. The couple that seems so perfectly in love may have each had excruciating divorces in their past. The personal trainer at the gym with the incredible body may be have an addiction that is creating torment in his life.
No one’s life is perfect or ideal. No one’s. In order to shift the focus from comparison to contentment, begin to focus on what you do have in your life.
One technique to begin this shift towards living with positive, affirming thoughts about yourself is to begin with gratitude. When your eyes first open in the morning, before you get up, have coffee, interact with others etc..., think of 5 things you are grateful for.
Let your gratitude extend out to any area of your life. Be aware of the instinct to limit yourself to what you are grateful for. As you repeat this exercise morning after morning the awareness of your thoughts will increase. You may find yourself more and more able to catch and shift those negative thoughts before they eat you up.
If you try this exercise, let me know. I would love to hear what shifts for you!